The impudence and audacity of some people is simply astounding. I will never understand how some people go about their lives with so little regard for others. I can only hope and pray that bitterness, that so readily rises from such circumstances, subsides before the point of disdain and contempt. Unfortunately, I think after tonight, it's probably too late.
This blog will mark the very fist time in 6 years of writing about the family, and in 17 years of knowing Lori, I am forced to show or speak about her in a negative light. It's painful, and makes me terribly sad to even comprehend.
I have always taken pride in knowing that I have a soft heart. I trust people. Normally it's a blessing, but tonight it's a curse. I trusted Lori one last time and it has cost me. I really thought her word was her bond. I took it to heart when she and I signed the temporary orders two months ago that we were trusting each other one last time, and after the divorce was final we would move on to our new lives.
Everything was going great, and the attorneys were drawing up the final papers. I was finally going to be able to breathe a sigh of relief, and be able to pay my mother back for the unselfish sacrifice she made that allowed me to move out of our house, and into a new house. A sacrifice that was made because of the amicable nature of Lori and my relationship, and the nature of the temp orders we signed. A sacrifice, that I'm afraid will now turn into a very real burden for her. For that, I am horrified, and truly sorry. I would never have let her help me if I had even the slightest inclination that Lori would change the agreement. I feel terrible.
The call came out of the blue from Lori yesterday letting me know that she no longer agrees with our temporary orders, and we will be starting over from scratch concerning custody of the children. She informed me that she would be seeking much greater custody. What? Is this some kind of joke? What?
Nope, no joke, and I am almost as confused and disappointed right now, as I was the day she told me she wanted a divorce. How can something like this happen? We had a plan that was working. She is a good mom, and I am a good dad. Best of both worlds. Sure the kids dislike not having mommy and daddy in the same house, but that is something that they are always going to have to get used to now. She claims it's for the "stability" of the children. Oh, this should make our situation much more stable. Spending thousands and thousands of dollars in court and attorney costs over the next year and subjecting our friends and families to hours and hours of court interrogatories and hearings should do wonders for the kids "stability".
I will never understand this. I will now be forced to fight tooth and nail for everything I can. She will do the same. Great. Just what the kids need....to see us fighting with each other constantly. Just what we need...to end up hating each other...perfect. We were doing so well. Really getting along better than we have in the last year. Why now?........It really makes no sense.
She thinks the best thing for the kids will be to wake up in the same house everyday of school. That would be great if we lived together, but to get that now would take visitation nights away from one of the parents.....meaning me! That is what she is thinking. What? Like I'm just going to let that happen. Of course I'm not. No judge in his or her right mind would take my time with those kids away. They need their father. I have plenty in the bank to support the kids and myself until I find a good paying job. I also have my home inspection business to fall back on. That's not an issue, and certainly has nothing to do with the kids stability. Nope not a thing. Those kids will never want for anything.
So, now I have more stress than ever, and I will probably have an eternal shell around my heart for ever. There is no way I'm letting anyone else in there. Perfect...really appreciated Lori...... :-(
Hopefully her attorney will dissuade her from such a rash and unproductive action. I am proud to say, that even though it would mean more fees and money for him, my attorney would.
William
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